Do you have a working definition of love? It’s a verb. That’s the first thing. It’s an active engagement with all kinds of feelings—positive ones and primitive ones and loathsome ones. But it’s a very active verb. And it’s often surprising how it can kind…
I recently received a request from a person who follows me on Facebook. She said she has been reading my posts there about meditation/mindfulness, and would like to know how to get started with it in her own life. People ask me this frequently, so…
Most people don’t clearly understand the difference between thoughts and feelings. This basic thing is critical in being able to make progress in the personal work we all need to be doing at any given moment. Client: My boss jumped all over me in front…
“I just want my partner to be the best they can be.” I hear this all the time. It seems like a nice sentiment. Until you really get to thinking about it. Can you see where the problem comes in here? The problem is who…
Life is a series of losses. And gains too, but in this post I want to talk about the losses, and how to live in such a way that you do not find yourself overwhelmed by them, since losses accumulate as you get older. The…
Some people grow up anxious. They either come from families that are unpredictable and chaotic, or they are just wired for anxiety somehow. Or both. These people frequently have seen several therapists, taken medications, and are fairly comfortable with the idea that they have this…