“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimise the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”

"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.”

“Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into “those who offer help” and “those who need help.” The truth is that we are both.”

"We are asking one person to give us what an entire culture used to provide."

“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.”

"Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness."

"Everything you do in your relationship is foreplay."