Decide

When one of you is not sure what comes next.

Based in Davison, I provide online discernment counseling to couples throughout Michigan who are facing serious uncertainty and need to make a clear, thoughtful decision about the future of their relationship.

Request a discernment consultation

A different kind of help

Not couples therapy, no pressure to stay.

Standard couples therapy works best when both people want to try to repair the relationship. You may have different levels of hope, but you share the goal of working on it together.

Discernment counseling is for a different moment. One partner may be leaning in and ready to do whatever it takes. The other may be leaning out, uncertain whether they want to stay, or not ready to make a final decision.

My job is not to convince either of you to stay or to leave. It is to help both of you understand what has happened, see your part in the pattern, and make the next decision with clarity.

This may be the right fit if

You are stuck between trying again and letting go.

One of you is seriously unsure whether the relationship should continue.
You are considering separation or divorce, or have already begun that process, but still have unanswered questions.
You cannot honestly commit to couples therapy yet because one partner is not sure they want to work on the relationship.
You want a structured, respectful way to decide what comes next, especially when children, history, or practical realities make the decision more complex.

The goal is clarity

Three paths can emerge from this work.

Discernment counseling does not make the decision for you. It helps you reach a decision you can understand and stand behind.

Commit to repair

Pause the divorce process and enter a focused period of couples therapy with a genuine intention to see whether the relationship can be rebuilt.

Name the status quo honestly

Recognize when neither person is ready to choose a direction yet, and understand the cost of remaining in that place.

Move toward separation

Choose separation or divorce with more clarity and a more humane plan for everyone involved, especially children.

How the process works

Every session follows a clear rhythm.

Discernment counseling is short-term, focused work. The first session is longer, and every session gives both of you space to speak openly and decide what makes sense next.

Begin togetherWe begin each session together. The first session is longer than the others.

Individual timeEach of you spends time with me individually.

Finish togetherWe come back together for a brief meeting before the session ends.

Decide what comes nextAt the end, we decide whether or not to schedule another session.

Take the next step carefully

You do not have to decide alone.

Request a discernment consultation to begin with a brief individual conversation.

Request a discernment consultation